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Gentle January – a rejection of resolutions

It’s 2021 and we’re all saying in unison ‘let’s hope it’s better than 2020!’ If you’re anything like me, you’re thinking about the changes you can make to your life to have a better year. Each new year people make resolutions – they set up rules for themselves as to how they live their life going forward. I won’t eat sugar, I’ll lose weight, I’ll work out every day, I won’t watch as much TV, I’ll earn more money… But what if we didn’t do that this year? What if we had a more gentle January?


A time for change

The new year is naturally a time we consider change. We think about what we can do to make our year the best it can be. It’s a great time to look at your life and think about ways you can make it better. But instead of making resolutions, what if we did something more radical? What if we rejected resolutions and just accepted ourselves?


Accepting yourself and asking for help

It’s been a hard year for everyone – nobody sailed through 2020 without worries or stress. And while it has been a difficult time, I’ve seen people be more forthcoming with the challenges they face with their physical and mental health.  More people feel that it’s okay to ask for help – and that’s wonderful to see. So instead of placing more stress on ourselves to be the best we can be, we should understand and accept ourselves more. If we can acknowledge our challenges, we can be in a better place to ask for some support.


Gentle January

So instead of setting unrealistic resolutions, let’s look after ourselves and be kinder to ourselves. Prioritise the things we often overlook – having restful sleep, drinking more water, having a better sense of wellbeing. There is one small act you can do today that can have a huge impact on your life – talk to us. We’re here to make sure you and your family don’t face life’s challenges alone. So as you take your first steps into this new year, remember that we’ve got your back.



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